SOMETIMES LIFE CAN BE SO SAD!!!!!!!

I found out today that a friend and former neighbors ( last year) 18 year old son was killed in a car crash yesterday morning.
So very sad. Sam was a nice kid. Graduated high school last year just before I moved. He had just called his Mom at 3 am and said he was on his way home. He always called his Mom to check in and let her know his comings and goings. A house rule.
Ten minutes later he was in a horrific car accident. The friend of his that was driving was drunk. I don't know the specifics but Sam was killed on impact. The driver managed to escape the car before it blew up. He is in critical condition.

When will anyone realize that alcohol and moving vehicles just don't mix. No matter what age you are. Now this young man has killed his best friend, has an under age DUI and manslaughter. If he survives he will go to jail without passing go. His life is ruined. Both families are destroyed. I know my friend Tammy. She is an accomplished artist and painter and lived her life for her 3 children. Sam was her baby. Her 27 year old daughter is mentally challenged. I hope and pray some day Tammy and her family recover. And come to live with this senseless tragedy.

Last weekend while my wusband was in town for our sons 32nd birthday. A so called friend decided she didn't like the fact that I can be friends with my ex. Hang out with him and get along with him. So she goes off the deep end because someone in some bar who doesn't know me. Told her something someone said.. Knowing her she was running her mouth at a bar close to where I was sitting on the beach with my wusband. He was sleeping. We were minding our own business doing what we have always for 36 years done. Hang out on the beach. Hell. We met on the beach in NJ in 1974 as teenagers. I love the fact that my wusband and I can be friends again. We do have a family together that we both love and cherish. Our family loves the fact that we can all be together without any problems.

Now I should mention that my boyfriend Bud loaned her a sum of money and she has to pay it back to me or him on a weekly basis. Now just him. It was time to pay and she was supposed to pay cash, no check and have it paid on Friday. Week 2 and late again. There is a reason I was a payee. I don't travel for a living and live down the street.

Lets just say that she is a drama queen, hot head with overblown fake titties, lots of tattoos and a really bad short fuse. Did I mention she is a bartender. I had called her out the week before for over serving my boyfriend and his friends and questioned the amount of the bar bills.

After threatening me with bullshit, I told her I had no clue what she was talking about. Still don't . She said she was going to call Bud and text him and destroy my life. She tried. I asked her to leave him alone since he was with friends on vacation. She didn't listen. I have issues with people like this. I really thought she was a friend. Well. No friend of mine treats anyone like this. Lets just say she may have caused some issues between me and Bud. She came out looking like the ass she is. Bud didn't believe a word she said but she managed to plant doubts. The weird thing is she told him nothing but lies and he knows me and knows I do not ever hang out in bars drinking and asking others to pay. That I am not cheating on him. ETC, ETC< ETC...

Now I have a cardinal rule I happen to live by. "DO NO HARM" I will never go up to someone and repeat something someone said about them. I don't interfere in others relationships and try and destroy them. And I would never intentionally set out to destroy anyone. Just bad karma. Now because I am non confrontational, people think I am a pushover. Nope. But I will not retaliate. Life and people like this get what they deserve. I don't have to do a thing.

There is a country song on the radio right now. I like it. " I Pray For You" It applies here.

I also believe we all deserve the right to live and let live as we see fit. Just because someone does not get my lifestyle doesn't mean it is wrong. It just may not be right for them. If those in my close life have no issues why would someone else have a say in it. The reason most people have no issues with me is they know me and that I will never do harm. I am empathic and feel way to much. I don't like conflict or angry words. I can't watch fighting or boxing, etc.

Said trouble making friend decided by text that she may have been wrong and over reacted and wants to talk and be friends.
4 hours after the text she got my very polite reply so she has no lingering doubt. NO THANK YOU> Loose the number and never interfere in my life again. I am not interested in any contact.

Now my boyfriend is not questioning this and it does make him getting paid back and issue. Not my problem. She violated my personal code of conduct. He gets that. He and I are fine. He is with me 24 / 7 when he is in town and has been since this has blown up and been a very learning experience in our lives. He is always with me regardless when he is here. Just how it is.

I guess some people just love drama. I am not one of them and keep it out of my life as much as possible.

Life can be sad. In the bigger picture of things. She and her opinions just don't matter in the long run.

Thank you for letting me vent in my own corner of the world. I hope everyone had a better week.